Healing from Past Relationships: How to Move Forward in Faith.

Let’s be honest…
Just because your spouse never complains doesn’t mean they aren’t carrying silent scars.

Many people enter marriage with wounds from past relationships, betrayal, abandonment, rejection, or emotional manipulation. And often, the quiet ones… the ones who "never complain"... are the ones silently hurting the most.

If this sounds like your spouse, or maybe even, you, this post is for both of you.

So, how do you move forward in faith and not just in silence?

1. Invite God into the Healing Process

"He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds." – Psalm 147:3

You or your spouse may not talk about the past, but God sees it. Start praying together (or on your own) about any lingering pain. Healing begins when we stop hiding our wounds.

Reflect:
Have you ever asked God to heal something you never told your spouse about?

2. Create a Safe Space in Your Marriage
Silent spouses don’t always need solutions, they need safety. Ask gently:

“Is there anything from your past that still weighs on you? I want to understand, not fix.”

Sometimes love sounds like listening.

Try this:
This week, schedule 20 minutes of “heart talk” time. No phones. No distractions. Just space to share, even if it’s just a little.

3. Forgive Yourself and Others (Again if You Must)
Forgiveness isn’t a one-time event. It’s a choice we walk in daily. Whether the pain came from an ex, a parent, or even from self-inflicted guilt, healing requires release.

“Be kind to one another… forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” – Ephesians 4:32

Ask yourself:
What do I need to let go of today so I can fully embrace the love I have now?

You don’t have to bleed on someone who didn’t cut you. And your spouse doesn’t have to carry pain they’ve never had permission to speak about.

Healing is possible.
Wholeness is promised.
And silence doesn’t mean peace—but faith-led conversation can lead to it.

What about you?
Have you or your spouse carried silent pain into your marriage? How did God bring healing?
👇 Share your thoughts.