Let me ask you a simple, but powerful question:
Would you date or marry someone exactly like you?
Take a moment and think about it.
Would you be drawn to your character? Your prayer life? Your patience? Your communication style?
Too often, we’re focused on finding the “right” person, when God is calling us to become the right person.
1. Make a List – Then Flip It
Grab a journal or open your notes app.
Write down the top 5 traits you desire in a future spouse. Got it?
Now flip the question:
Do you embody those traits yourself?
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Want someone who’s emotionally mature? Are you learning to manage your emotions with grace?
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Want someone prayerful? How’s your prayer altar?
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Want someone kind and patient? What’s your reaction in traffic or long lines?
This isn’t about perfection — it’s about intention.
Scripture:
“So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you...” – Matthew 7:12 (NIV)
“A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.” – Proverbs 31:10
2. Ask God, Not Just Google
Before you start praying for a partner, pray about who you’re becoming.
Ask: “Lord, shape me into someone who reflects Your love, wisdom, and grace.”
Scripture:
“Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart.” – Psalm 37:4
“Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts.” – Psalm 139:23
He knows what (and who) you need, and He’ll shape you accordingly.
3. Take the Mirror Test
Every morning this week, before scrolling or texting, try this:
Look in the mirror and say:
“I’m becoming the kind of person I want to marry.”
Then take one small action that aligns with that showing up on time, listening without interrupting, or forgiving quickly.
Scripture:
“Put on then, as God’s chosen ones… compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience.” – Colossians 3:12
4. Let’s Talk in the Comments:
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What’s one trait you’re working on becoming more consistent in?
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How has God been shaping you in your single season?
Drop your thoughts below.
Closing Thought:
Attraction isn’t just physical. The right person is drawn to purpose, character, and Christ in you.
Before you search outward, build inward.
Scripture:
“But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” – Matthew 6:33
You’re not waiting idly, you’re becoming intentionally.
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